Let’s face it. When stuff happens we have an emotional reaction to it, all the time!! For examples, when a family member says something they shouldn’t or when a client is not showing up to a scheduled meeting and doesn’t communicate it with you.
When you are consumed with worry and you are not sure where the money for next month’s rent is coming from. When you feel like you are getting older and your body changes with pain here and stiffness there…
When someone you consider to be your friend never calls or initiates getting together. And there are so many other things that can happen to us.
We get hurt, offended, or disappointed. We feel disrespected, ignored, and unappreciated. We feel helpless, hopeless, and discouraged. We feel, feel, and feel some more, all day long.
At the end of 2013, just before Christmas, I started to feel this tension in my neck. It was the kind of tension where I couldn’t turn my head fully to the right without feeling pain.
I tried to help myself in different ways. The first thing I did was to go to my chiropractor to see if something had moved. The chiropractor adjusted my bones, but I had no relief.
As the leader of my own health, I was proactive. I went back to seeing my chiropractor on a weekly basis, but I didn’t believe that I was getting better. It wasn’t the kind of pain I’d want to live with so I took warm Epsom salts baths, reduced my hours in front of the computer, and stretched frequently. I did Yoga and healing sessions on myself and with other healers and except for 20-minutes of relief after one healing session, the pain was still there. So basically nothing that I did had worked.
I Do Not Take Any Pain Medication.
My Goal Is To ALWAYS Get To The Bottom
Of The Pain And Not Eliminate It
Without Knowing What’s Causing It.
Years ago, a woman came to see me for hypnotherapy sessions for weight loss. As we looked at her eating habits the main thing that was very clear was that most of her meals were a combination of processed food, in plastic containers, that she threw quickly into the microwave when she got home from a busy and stressful day at work
When we discussed the possibility of her having salads, she replied by saying that “salads are a lot of work. You need to wash the vegetables, cut them, and throw them in a bowl…” As I was listening to her, I was looking for the “lot of work” component and I couldn’t find it.
How do you know that you are truly ready for healing? Is it enough to have the desire to heal? Or are there other things that are a part of the true healing equation?
More than once in my life I have wanted to resolve my pain, ache, and discomfort. And I’ve done a lot of things to try and break through the same old same thing.
Today, after almost two decades of working with people in-person and long-distance, as well as my own personal experience, I can confidently say that having the desire to heal is just one piece of the healing puzzle; a very important piece, but still just one piece.
A Desire Is One Piece That Allows All The Other Pieces To Come Into Place, BUT It’s Not Enough Just To Have A Desire. One Must Also Be Open To Receive What He/She Is Asking For.
I was on my way to get a ninety minute massage; my birthday gift to myself. I was so excited to enjoy the healing touch of one of the most amazing massage therapists on the planet, Chance Welton.
Driving happily on the 101 freeway towards beautiful Topanga Canyon, listening to the musical, Matilda, singing along and really enjoying myself, I suddenly heard this loud noise.
We all know at least one person if not more who is going through physical and/or emotional challenges. Maybe that one person is you…
It is tough to just accept or live with these kinds of challenges that may be debilitating, painful, and sucking the joy out of living.
In my life, whenever I endured physical pain, like stomach aches since the age of 12 or pain in my bones as I grew or a severe allergy in my late 30’s; I felt that these physical challenges were not as painful as my emotional challenges. I was getting hurt by what other people said, by their behavior towards me and others, and I did not know where (or with whom) to process what I was going through. So I did it all internally because I had to.
In this blog, I am going to share with you a story that will blow your mind. What will blow your mind is the simplicity that showed up behind the pain that one of my client have endured. The name and circumstances have been change to protect her privacy.
Sheila came to see me for a foot analysis reading with a pain in her left foot (in the area shown in the image below). As I looked at her foot asking her if she remembered if she had hit it or stepped on something, she replied that nothing of that sort had happened. So I moved to the emotional angle of the reading and asked her how is it going for her in the area of communicating, expressing herself, and who she is especially in regards to her family. It seems that according to her feet there wasn’t an issue in her career, it was family related.
Having a strong desire to be, do, or have something that you really want is a wonderful thing. It’s the driving force that has the full potential in it to be, do, or have what we want.
We all experience that desire and sometimes, when we desire that “thing” for a long time and do not get it, the desire may become mixed with frustration, resentment, and even bitterness. Sometimes we may even feel defeated. From that point on, it seems that the climb back up to “going after your dreams” is more challenging.
How many times do you feel like you are being tested by the universe and you just didn’t get the message of what you are being tested for? You knew that there was something for you to learn, to get, to wake up to, but what the heck is it?
It may have been one aspect in your life that keeps repeating itself and you can’t find good answers for it or it may be one thing after another in many different areas in your life altogether.
At some point in life, we all felt stuck. We have a problem and we simply don't know where to turn. It feels like we are living in a maze. Every train of thought that we take, leads us to one or more dead ends. Many times we think that tomorrow morning we'll wake up and a solution will present itself, or things will be different, but…they are not. It's the same old same, day in and day out and we almost feel like a part of us is slowly dying.
We feel that 'slow death' because on one hand we know that we can't continue the way things are; the physical or emotional pain is draining, frustrating, and exhausting. The pain sucks the joy out of life. Continue reading