We all get there from time to time, that habit of thinking in negative ways. Some of us do it every few minutes and others need a trigger that will start rolling those negative neurons in our brain which will then activate the snowball of negative thoughts. It is funny that a lot of people are not aware that they even have negative thoughts. They just think that this is who they are and this is the truth. If you are among those who are aware of your negative thoughts, then that actually means that you are very, very close to releasing them.
Here are 8 ways we can get
INTO negative thinking or a negative space
and how to get OUT of it:
When Your Awareness
Of Thinking Negatively Grows,
So Will Your Ability To Shift It.
1. It's simply a habit. Thinking negatively is something that we do very well. It is simply because we are conditioned to think that way. It's what we know. We have always been that way, and so too, are our parents, siblings, and relatives. Like the old proverb says, "Monkey see, monkey do."
For example, when we find ourselves driving in heavy traffic, our habitual way could be to get into a negative mindset about it; unless you have re-conditioned yourself to be able to shift away from this default mindset.
From now on, make a decision to work on your awareness and conditioning. We all know that nothing will change unless we change. And every change begins with awareness and repetition, that's what will make it become a new habit.
2. Preparing for the worse. We don't want to get disappointed so we tell ourselves stories about why things will go wrong (and then they usually do).
For example, when you are sharing with your friend or relative about an investment you are excited about, you might tend to say: …"the worst case scenario is that I won't make any money, but at least I wouldn't lose any money." When you say that, you are actually starting to project negatively and depending upon who you share it with, he or she may add some "gas to the fire" with a sarcastic input and then cause you to get disappointed and you'll buy into their pessimism.
From now on when you are having conversations with yourself or with others, first, choose wisely what you wish to share and who you wish to share it with. And when you become aware that you are going into that space of, "I am saying this so I won't get disappointed," choose a different language, a different wording that brings excitement and openness. Don't impose negativity on the decision you already made earlier (in the above example, the investment).
3. Chemicals fluctuations. Our blood sugar level can drop. (It's called Hypoglycemia – Low Blood Sugar). It can even happen in the middle of the night, and that's one of the main reasons why people have nightmares and in their waking hours have anxiety attacks.
For example, when you have been working on your computer and haven't moved nor eaten for a few hours, your blood sugar will naturally drop. Every task that you are trying to perform will become more challenging and will require a greater level of focus from you. If you are not aware of this fact, you simply need to put something into your mouth that is hopefully healthy for you, like: almonds, walnuts, fruits, meat, egg, not just something that will give you the immediate sugar rush, like chocolate or processed food. But you most likely will try to push yourself harder to accomplish more and then have a snack filled with sugar. This only creates more mess and miscommunication and then you'll give it a negative meaning–that you are so unorganized or not focused or you are a lousy time manager. These negative meanings are basically negative thoughts caused by the drop of sugar, simply because you are not giving yourself a break to rejuvenate yourself.
From now on get into the habit of setting a timer. The timer will tell you exactly when you should get up and take a break. Place the timer away from you, so you'll have to get up when it goes off, and do what you are supposed to do; eat a healthy snack, stretch, take care of your body so it will continue to take care of your mind.
4. Being tired and stressed. We do not sleep well or sleep enough, so we are more fatigued during the day and therefore more suggestible to negative thoughts.
For example, you might be starting your day on a negative note because you woke up with a headache, which is almost like a hangover (even though you didn't touch alcohol the night before), and you are supposed to begin your day and function as usual, like being nice to people, even if it's "just" your family.
From now on, get into the habit of getting enough sleep and/or a good night's sleep. (If you have a problem with that, a few hypnotherapy sessions can help you tremendously, click here if you wish to receive a complimentary healing consultation and get your sleep in check). If you feel that you are negative in the morning or in mid-day and you suspect that it is simply because you are tired, acknowledge that, give yourself permission to stop fighting the fatigue, take a breath, and make some adjustments to your day to the best of your ability. If possible, communicate with your loved one that you are having "this kind of day" and tell them that just for today, you need them to either not take you seriously, turn down the volume, or let you be. Whatever it is that you recognize as your needs.
5. Unresolved issues. There are certain things in our lives that are not resolved and the negativity can be surrounded around those things. These are nagging, repetitive, and relentless thoughts and feelings.
For example, you might have a bit of a hard time with your intimate relationship and thoughts about your partner. What he or she has done, said, did or didn't do, which constantly feeds your mind with drops and drops of accumulated negativity that takes away your energy, focus, and joy.
From now on choose to do something that puts you on the right path to resolve the issue. There are some issues that are more complex and some will take a good long conversation, but everything can be resolved and it all starts with one step. So take that first step, instead of staying with your negative thoughts. If you are struggling with negative relationships this may be a good place to start and dissolve some of the harsh emotions.
6. Not getting what we want. When we don't get what we want, then anger, disappointment, and frustration dissolves our thoughts. Bitterness, resentment, and making others in the wrong, all boils down to forms of negative thoughts.
For example, you might want to get a day off, but it doesn't work for your boss or with your family schedule. You understand that you can't get what you want and you become frustrated. Each day requires your undivided attention, but your attention has deviated because you didn't get the day off when you wanted it. This feeling simmers beneath the surface of your mind and then is expressed in different ways like, sarcasm or pessimism or you loosing things or your body having physical pains, etc.
From now on, IDENTIFY that this may be the case for you. That you are thinking negatively because you are not getting what you want and change your direction. Instead of concluding and determining that you are not getting what you want, present it to yourself or the universe in this way: "How CAN I get what I want?" Allow the answer to come to you in its own time, either today, tomorrow or next week; just stay open and keep the above question in your mind. Then, when you get a message, an idea, or an inner guidance, follow it with peace and joy.
7. Toxins accumulated. Your liver may be overloaded from past resentments, negativity, frustration, and other toxins that are not necessarily created by emotions, but by an environment that is filled with chemicals and pollutants. If you are not sure what I am talking about, I URGE YOU TO CLICK HERE. When our liver is overloaded with toxins it becomes challenging to be positive and uplifted and no matter what you do, it may continue to produce negative thoughts and feelings.
For example, you may have not made the move to eating organic food as yet because you think it's too expensive or it's all bogus (IT IS NOT!). Without giving too much thought to eating, you eat whatever is served to you. You don't ask what is the source of this food or how the vegetable or animal was raised. You fill your body with herbicides, pesticides, and hormones that were all a part of the industrial growth process of the food that you put into your mouth and you wonder why you are irritated, impatient, and negative…
From now on it would be very beneficial for you to educate yourself more about where toxins in your life are coming from and how you can start taking control back into your own hands to take care of the health of your liver. Find ways for your liver to stop working so hard cleaning your body of toxins (= slow poisons) and help yourself to find liver happiness. Here is another great resource.
8. The path of least resistance. It's easier to become negative then noticing how we feel. It takes little effort to think negatively. It's there by default. But it does take effort to think positively. (A few of us were raised by self-aware caretakers and understand how the mind works). The way the mind works neurologically is we have a neuro-pathway in the brain that is already established and whether we know it or not, when we face a situation that triggers that neuro-pathway to do its thing, it simply does. It goes hand-in-hand with negative thoughts being a habit).
For example, you show up at a family gathering. You prepare yourself and decide to stay centered and not let your cousin's remarks throw you off. You don't want to get into his/her power games. But it goes the opposite way and you find yourself arguing again. Bummer, and you had made a decision to not let that happen…
From now on when you find yourself in a situation that causes negative thinking which leads to negative behavior, catch yourself and change course. Break the habit or break the pattern or break the path of thought. You can do it. You don't have to be right, you just have to be aware.
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