Whether the feeling of rejection shows up for us in a relationship or in business it is not fun AT ALL. One morning as I was still contemplating if to get out of bed or to sleep in just a little bit longer, the content for this blog post was running through my mind and I knew that it was time to share what I know with everyone else.
I have had some unpleasant experiences with rejection and if you are reading my blog for quite some time, you have probably noticed that when I experience something that I don’t like, I am always looking for solutions. When they show up I share them with others so I can save them the journey that I went through. So I’d like to share with you
Two True Stories From My Personal And Business Life Where I Got "Hit" By Rejection And What I’ve Done To Decrease The "Hit" To Almost None.
In 2005 when I was still single while attending HMI (Hypnosis Motivation Institute) and learning to become a clinical hypnotherapist I met this guy one weekend in a motivational workshop. I was really excited about him, and it seemed that he was excited about me too. We met a week after the workshop, went to the beach and had a nice romantic afternoon together. After that we continued calling one another, but for some reason we could not work our schedules to meet. I started to get messages from my gut telling me that I am wasting my time here. He continued to call, to say nice things to me and to try to get together but either he didn’t know what he wanted or he did but was not honest or brave enough to communicate it with me.
The feeling that I experienced was pure rejection. Even though he still called and still courted me with his warm words, I was determined (as much as I was excited about him) to kick him out of my system. I didn’t want to spend my time waiting for him to make any kind of move. I wanted to move on, I was interested in finding the right one.
At that time I was learning a new technique at my hypnotherapy school. The technique was about emotional reactions vs. logical reactions. Or, in other words, how to condition ourselves to react to events in a logical way vs. emotional way. It had to do with using the right brain and left brain. As I was learning this, a light bulb turned on in my brain (both left and right 🙂 I went home, recorded my voice walking me through the technique and then listened to the recording imagining the rejection and systematically desensitizing myself from the experience with hmm…(gosh, I can’t even remember his name…).
I listened to the recording 3 times and totally felt that I desensitized myself from feeling rejected by this guy.
The beautiful thing was that I didn’t need to spend precious time talking to my friends about him, making him wrong, trying to figure out what is wrong with me or the reasons he didn't want to be with me. We all know that many times on a logical level we need to let something go, but on the emotional level it’s not that simple, is it? Well this technique that I used really worked!! After only 3 times of listening to my own voice on the recording and my emotions of feeling rejected by him were diminished, I was able to move on, with my studies, my life and starting to date other people. From time to time he would call and found my voicemail greeting him.
When my husband and I were engaged, we bumped into this guy one day. When I saw him, I remember that the thought that went through my mind was: “This guy looks really familiar…” and then I realized that the conditioning work that I had done had really put him in the “forgotten” folder in my mind. That blew me away as well! How powerful our mind is.
Two and a half years later I realized that I can use the same strategy in my business. When I am calling prospects, or when I am calling to book a presentation, some people will say: “No, I am not interested” or even would be rude. So I did this process again. This time I made a wonderful recording (that my darling husband wrote the music for) and I made it available for other business owners, so they can more easily make the calls that they needed to make (I’ll show you in a moment how to get this recording).
So here I am with my list of prospects, calling the first one on the list (it wasn't even a sales call) to invite this woman to a free teleseminar I was doing for the team she was a part of in her network marketing group. Her husband answers the phone and before I even have a chance to tell him why I'm calling, he already informs me that they are not interested. And by the way, that was not a cold call. It was a referral. His wife was a downline of my client.
I was nice to him, we ended the conversation, and I found myself sitting there with my list, shocked, hurt and contemplating if I should even continue calling the other people…who needs this, right? What have I done wrong that I deserve this?
It took me about 15 second to regroup! The thoughts and feelings were gone! I took a deep breath and punched the next number as if nothing happened!!
I give thanks to the wonderful and brilliant ways of the mind and, and more than that, I humbly acknowledg myself for taking the action, for recording it, listening to it a couple of times and being able to quickly go through the emotional turmoil and move on. I am not going to end this blog without telling you where you can grab a copy of this recording. Just click here to get the audio that helped me become rejection-proof.
One last thing. The audio (called: “Becoming Rejection Proof”) is designed at this point for small business owners, network marketers and sales people. I will be working on putting together a similar recording that is oriented for single people. If you can’t wait, I want you to know that this recording will still work for you in the area of relationships as well. All you need to do is when I mention the word: “prospect” you can replace it in your own mind with the word: “partner” or “date”. Feel free to write to me through this blog (by placing a comment) or contact me through my websites if you have any requests or questions.
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After you listen to it, come back to this blog and write your comment, ask me questions, or share what happened for you after you listened to it. I am really looking forward to find out how you felt and how you were able to operate differently as a result.
And until we meet again, infinite blessings to you and may you experience freedom, health, prosperity, happiness and love, every day you are living on this earth.
Founder of Infinite Realities International- Holistic Healing
Clinical Hypnotherapist, Master Results Coach & Forensic Healer
Sigal incorporating these modalities in her practice: Foot & Handwriting Analysis, The Grinberg Method, Past Life Regression, Reiki, NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programing) Neurological Repatterning, Clinical Hypnotherapy, Forensic Healing and more. To learn more about Sigal and her work visit www.sigalzoldan.com
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