At some point in life, we all felt stuck. We have a problem and we simply don't know where to turn. It feels like we are living in a maze. Every train of thought that we take, leads us to one or more dead ends. Many times we think that tomorrow morning we'll wake up and a solution will present itself, or things will be different, but…they are not. It's the same old same, day in and day out and we almost feel like a part of us is slowly dying.
We feel that 'slow death' because on one hand we know that we can't continue the way things are; the physical or emotional pain is draining, frustrating, and exhausting. The pain sucks the joy out of life.
On the other hand, we know there must be a solution for the challenge we are experiencing. There MUST BE!! But, where is it? How do we find a solution? Where do we start? Where do we turn? I have found this many times in my life, not knowing where to turn and at times, I still don’t know what to do.
Some Problems Seem To Take Us To A Dead End While At Other Times, We Know Exactly How To Resolve The Problem. Why Is That?
It’s simply because we feel that the problem is “bigger” than us. “Bigger” than our abilities, capabilities, knowledge, and wisdom.
But that’s not true; it is only the limitations that we put on ourselves. That’s what it is about. It is the reason that people say, “what can’t kill you will make you stronger.” The question is, will you allow yourself to grow and expand through your problem(s) or will you stay small and stuck?
Many Times Our Problems Are An Opportunity For Us To Grow And Evolve.
There is great news, though. There is one thing that we can always do by ourselves when we are facing a problem, a challenge, a pain, or an issue. We can always ask ourselves good questions that will lead us to find some good answers.
Our minds can find an answer to any question we present it. It will not always be the right answer, however; therefore you need to learn to tap into the wisdom of your heart to find the right answer for you. It is simple; I’ll share it with you in a moment.
When you ask the right questions, there is a good chance that a right answer will show up, and in terms of getting unstuck, a good answer would feel like the opening of a maze. It would feel like an internal “YES,” as if someone has turned on the light switch for you.
This answer has the potential of getting you on track and leads you to start heading in the direction of solutions, (if you take action that is…).
A great question you can always ask yourself repeatedly is: "What Do I Need?" Let me show you what I mean.
So let’s say your problem is that you feel stuck in a relationship that is not bringing out the best in you. You and your spouse have grown apart and you no longer understand each other, communicate, or want to be in each other’s presence. But it’s complicated; you have kids, pets, and mutual friends. And in a way, you are not even sure it’s the best solution to separate. There may be another solution that you are currently unaware of and you cannot become aware of it because you run the same course of thought you always do only to find yourself back at square one.
So you sit quietly for a moment or two, you breathe and ask yourself:
What do I need?
Here are possible answers that may come up:
– I need a vacation from everything.
This is basically a request for relief from dealing with a challenge and the feelings of being stuck with no options. If you can and it’s possible, this may be a good next step for you. You’ll get away, you’ll clear your head and some new ideas will pop into your mind that would generate the answer you seek.
If it’s not doable to go on a vacation by yourself, you’ll continue asking the same question.
What do I need?
– I need to talk to someone who can help me see some solutions.
So you develop this thought. Who does this person need to be: a friend, a therapist, a coach, or a doctor? And you start taking steps in the direction of finding that person.
Each step you take away from the problem puts you one step closer towards a possible solution.
What do I need?
– I really need to leave this relationship. I am clear about that. But financially it is impossible for me to leave. I am totally dependent upon my spouse. You are stuck. You know that until you stand on your own two feet, you cannot leave… Each time you get stuck you go back to the same question.
What do I need?
– I need to have my own income where I can take care of myself, I am independent and self-reliant.
So then that’s exactly what you do. You are starting to take the first step towards that goal. You continue asking yourself, “What do I need?” and take action aligned with that goal. Aligned action is when your emotions and your actions are in cooperation.
So if what you need is to get financial stable on your own, but you are resentful towards your spouse, blaming him/her and then taking action, that IS NOT aligned action. You’ll be shooting yourself in the foot. The aligned way to do this is to decide: It’s my time to take care of me. I am grateful for my spouse for supporting me all these years and I’m now choosing to find my own strength and create financial stability for myself.”
Exercise: Take a moment right now, breathe, think of a challenge that you currently are experiencing and ask yourself: “What Do I Need?”
Continue breathing and make room for an answer to come; not from your mind. Do not analyze or think of how you will go about implementing anything. Just get in touch with what you need, from your heart.
Once you've done this exercise, feel free to share in the comment area below, I am here for you…
Also, you are welcome to apply for a complimentary healing consultation with me so can start walking the path of clearing the blocks that may be standing in your way to feel better today. Click here, watch the short video and follow the steps to apply.
Meanwhile, many blessings and much love to you and may you experience freedom, health, prosperity, happiness and love, every day you are living on this earth.