The Habit Of Converting Negative to Positive

woman holds headWe all have those negative thoughts that creep in. Even though you might have meditated today, slept well, even exercised, negativity awaits in the corner like a good old loyal friend that is always there for us (like it or not). So if we would look for a moment at negativity as a friend (just for a moment) then maybe, just maybe, there is a reason why this friend is always (or almost always) there for us.

In my work and personal evolution I have bumped into many moments that I have perceived as negative. We are meaning-making machines, and, since we are, why not choose a meaning that is more positive and empowering?

mind trainingAs I was going through my NLP training in 2007, I learned a profound way to shift one's thinking. I am not talking here about "positive thinking" but about "neurological repatterning". Meaning that the simple technique I am going to share with you (and you'll be flabbergasted by how simple it is), actually shifts the neurology in our brain because of its intimate connection to our thought processes, to our feelings, to our motions and movements, even to the very words we choose to use.

I want to show you how to do this but first I'd like to share with you a little story.

There was a time that I felt ready for my husband to propose to me. I spent time in resentment and frustration because he didn't, and the way the thought appeared in my mind was:

“It is taking him too long”

So I used this conversion technique that I am about to show you, and started to come up with ideas of how I could give it a different meaning, and here is what came up:

"He wants to stay with me for the rest of his life
so he is preparing himself for that”.

“He loves me so much and he is preparing
a very special proposal for me”.


About 3 weeks after I did this conversion technique,
I got a proposal from my wonderful guy.
It was on a hot air balloon in Snowmass, Colorado.

(The 3 pictures above were taken on July 4th 2007. The view was asstoning, the ride was magical. It was the two of us and the pilot, John. The other hot air balloon was another group that was flying close to us)

Later on my husband shared with me that he made the decision to propose to me in February, but because he wanted it to be so special he preferred to wait and propose in July when we would have our vacation in Snowmass-Colorado.

I was amazed not only with how much this conversion technique allowed me to be at peace in the present moment, but also to manifest such a reality that, in a way, was even better than my dreams.Two dreams came true in one day. The flight in a hot air balloon and the marriage proposal.

The Engagement Ring.

The ring was designed especially for me 🙂 with the infinity sign
(the name of my business is Infinite Realities, Inc….)

OK, so here is the conversion technique:

The way to do this conversion technique is to use it as a replacement, meaning every time that your mind goes to the negative, you ask yourself:

"What’s another way of looking at this?”
(That is more positive)

man at cross road
When we have more options, we know where to go. Our mind knows where to go. When we don’t have options we don’t know what to do, so we go to the default, and if the default is negativity, then we visit it too often.

If you are not sure how to convert your negative thoughts, then let this blog be your platform in learning how to find another way to look at the same thing but not through glasses of negativity.

Feel free to post here a sentence that describes the negative "thing" (just one sentence, not a story. Take a look again at the example I gave above), and I will offer you a few options that will shift your mind to think a different way.

Good luck and enjoy the shift.

I would love to read your comments, tell me how you liked this post, tell me what you are planning to do with this information, ask questions and come back to share what have opened up for you.

Meanwhile, many blessings and much love to you and may you experience freedom, health, prosperity, happiness and love, every day you are living on this earth.

Sigal Zoldan
Founder of Infinite Realities International- Holistic Healing
Clinical Hypnotherapist, Master Results Coach
& Forensic Healer

Sigal incorporating these modalities in her practice: Foot & Handwriting Analysis, The Grinberg Method, Past Life Regression, Reiki, NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programing) Neurological Repatterning, Clinical Hypnotherapy, Forensic Healing and more. To learn more about Sigal and her work visit

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The Habit Of Converting Negative to Positive — 38 Comments

  1. When negative thoughts get in me, I take a lot of chocolates to keep me happy. I convert negative into positive thoughts by keeping in mind that every cloud has a silver lining and at that there’s a rainbow always after the rain.

  2. Great Read!

    Having options. But realizing that there are other options available is the thing to put into practice. Breaking the cycle requires new and, now it would seem, simpler ways of doing so. As I mature the chance to practice something different is offered to me and If I am grounded, spiritually then my response is in kind. It’s when I have not been practicing a better way that I fall victim to me.

    Thanks for reminding me that in order to get better I have to “DO” better and it starts and ends with me.


  3. Hey Willie,
    I appreciate your comment.
    I believe that it all starts with a decision. Making a decision to move a way from negativity and then practice it on a daily basis.
    It is becoming easier the more we practice.

  4. Hello Sigal,

    As you say, we are meaning-making machines, and, (since we are, why not choose a meaning that is more positive and empowering?)

    We have more power and control over what happens in our lives then we realize.

    If only we would get in the habit of converting negatives into positives.

    Thanks for sharing,


  5. Alex, thanks for stopping by. I am so glad you were exposed to this work years ago.


  6. Hey Sigal,

    Thx again for sharing such a great and simple technique. I came across this already back in 1996 when I started to follow Anthony Robbins in some of his books. I was so amazed how simple it is to change things when seeing it from a different perspective. Great work and as Steve Shoemaker mentioned above… You just need keep to remind yourslef to Do it when in a negative state… LOL.

    Great blog,


  7. LeeAnn, home schooling of 3 kids defiantly puts you in a spot where you need to monitor your levels of negativity. I can’t imagine how you do that but I am sure you are doing a great job. If you haven’t done any visualization specifically about reducing negativity so your tank is filled everyday with positive deposits then maybe it’s time to consider listening to one. If you’ll choose to check out the audio that I’ve created here is the link to get it AND, Because you stopped by I’d like to give you this special coupon code that will cut of 50% of the price. It’s TNEGV0411 Once you add the Negativity Eliminator to the cart, just copy and paste it in to the bar that says: “coupon code (optional).


  8. So very true!!! I have been working very hard at this lately and I can really notice the “shift”. I also home school my 3 children and some days it can be challenging to say the least…lol…there were mornings where I would wake up and say to myself…I wander what argument the kids will get into day…or I bet this will be another challenging day and never failed, it turned out being a hard day…I was automatically assuming that the day would be hard before anything even happened! So by changing my thoughts, which is hard…lol…I have been trying to wake up with a positive attitude towards the day and them getting along, etc…while it does not prevent the issues 100% it sure does help quite a bit! 🙂

  9. Awesome Linda.
    This stuff works! I am always relieved to know that are simple solution to our problems.


  10. Hi Sigal!
    What a wonderful post. This information can be life changing!
    Somehow I have already made the shift to your technique, but it is always great for the reminder, and I need to think about whether or not I am doing it all the time, or part of the time…hmmm.
    Thanks for the great training, and your beautiful example!

  11. Your gem of a story and your invaluable technique remind me of what it’s like to take a photograph. I can take a “close” up of someone’s face and I can take an “open” up of the same someone standing in a field of sunflowers with a mountain range in the background waving to a happy couple in a hot air balloon. In any situation we find ourselves in, there is always a bigger picture to behold and to experience.

  12. That balloon ride must have been a blast 🙂

    It’s so true how we can change the meaning of everything in life with a shift in perception.

    Has NLP given you the tools to shift the negativity and to prevent it in some cases as well?


  13. Thanks Asa for stopping by.
    I am glad you enjoyed this post.

    Sigal 🙂

  14. Sigal, what a great and heartwarming story. And you are so right, there is always a more positive way to look at all that happens. Your story also is a good reminder that life needs space to develop. If you hold onto something too hard and try to control it too much because you are afraid of loss, then nothing will grow or prosper.

    And your ring is so beautiful!

    With kind regards

    Asa in Sweden

  15. That is an excellent story of how to use positive NLP thinking to get the outcome you want from life. It really is the stuff that we say to ourselves that determines our life.

  16. Sigal, All I can say is WOW I loved your Proposal story and you make a wonderful point on how to create something positive out of a negative thought. Your article receives 5 Stars ***** 🙂

  17. Hi Sigal, what a heart-warming story and I love how you recommend turning our negative thinking about ‘negative thoughts’ from ‘stop thinking those thoughts’ to a more positive ‘here is a friend looking out for me, what can I learn’. Wonderful.
    Beautiful photos too 🙂

  18. Julieanne, I agree with you. It is challenging for many of us to track negative thoughts when we are engaged in having them. I am doing this work for over 12 years, so for me, I am engaged on a daily basis with these topics. I am also (da…) a human being, and I am going through my own life’s journey and I find it that for me, it is easier to notice, that I am not happy, or that I am frustrated, or sad, or whatever the “good friend” that is trying to show me the way is. That’s where I experience the negativity, in the feelings, not so much in my thoughts. Here is a great blog I wrote for a friend of mine where I show the process that leads from the head to our feelings and how it influences our results

    Thanks for stopping by.
    🙂 Sigal

  19. Hi Sigal, that’s beautiful how your husband proposed!

    Regarding negative thoughts, sometimes I don’t realize when I’m thinking negative stuff. I can go through a process of thinking thoughts and not realize whether they are negative or positive.

    What I’m saying is that it’s hard to notice thoughts all the time because we’re so busy thinking them:-)

    I’m sure you know what I mean! bye for now, Julieanne

  20. Thanks Beth. It was very special. You remind me that I didn’t ware the ring for some time…I should put it on…

  21. Ah the power of our words….so important in creating our reality. And congratulations on not only creating the necessary shift to bring you peace, but on creating the space to receive that which you truly desired! Your ring is stunning and the proposal sounds dreamy! 🙂

    Glad to connect with you this week, Sigal, I really enjoyed your story and the message.

  22. Sigal

    Well you were right it was pretty straightforward. The trick is I guess is to remember to do it. That would be the hard part. Great view and kudos to your hubby that is how to do it.


  23. Okay, “I feel so unfocused,” becomes, “I am focused and productive and I spend my time wisely on Facbook.” LOL!
    Good advice. I guess it starts with recognizing what we are being
    negative about.

  24. Deb, thanks for stopping by. Great affirmation – “When one door closes, another will open!” I just have one tiny adjustment. Keep the tenses the same, like this – “When one door closes, another opens!” that’s another way to use NLP. By affirming, or thinking that way you are contributing to your present perception vs. your future one (and we all know that we live in the present. We can never live in the future unless the future becomes the present :-)) Maybe you are not consciously aware that a door has actually been opened, but if you believe in it, you believe in it now.

    Enjoy your day.

  25. Hi Sigal,

    I love this. I had started looking into NLP about a year or so ago, but it was more along the lines of using it in copywriting.

    Interesting that I never thought to apply it to myself and/or situation.

    At first I was surprised that changing your mindset about a long awaited proposal because I thought you might try to use NLP to adjust someone else’s mindset subliminally, however after reading the rest of your post I saw that you were changing your own perspective. Brilliant! Your husband was planning the proposal all along, so you didn’t change anything in him, but in your mindset to accept the wait.

    I can certainly use this in my particular situation right now — and my positive statement, while it may sound cliche, is…

    “When one door closes, another will open!”

    Great story and example. Thanks!

  26. Hello Sigal

    Since thought is the only thing we control this is a very important technique. Staying alert to what thoughts we are allowing to visit us and using this technique will definitely change conditions.


    Perry A Davis Jr
    Music City USA

  27. Hi Yorinda,

    Thanks for stopping by. I am glad you like it. It is by default that we get stuck on things, so when we have more options, like asking great (opening questions) we have the opportunity to train our minds to think in a more solution oriented way vs. a stuck way 🙂

    “See” you soon,

  28. Hi Sigal,

    great example! What a lovely ring.

    I am glad to have learned this technique and I call it looking for positive aspects (based on the teachings of Abraham-Hicks)

    I like your question: “what is another way of looking at this?”

    Thank you for sharing.

    Love and Joy

  29. Having been the witness to all of the above, I attest to its veracity & effectiveness. Once again, dear Sigal, you have shown your mastery and love.
    In admiration,

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