When What You Want And What You Get IS NOT On The Same Page – Part 9 out of a 16-part series.

We, humans, are creatures of habit. We tend to repeat the same old ways of being. The way we think, the way we speak, the way we engage and interact, the way we take care of ourselves or don’t…

One of the reasons we are “the same old same” is because we may have never taken the time to clarify what we want.

what do you want

But we take plenty of time to declare what we don’t want.

What do I mean?

I mean that when you have pain, discomfort, or struggle with whether it’s physical or emotional (for example, you are experiencing back pain, knee pain, stomach ache, migraine, frustration, anxiety, worry, or etc.), you most likely are thinking one or more of these thoughts:

“I wish this was gone,”
“What am I going to do with this? I don’t know where to turn anymore…,”
“Gosh, when is this going to be over?”
“I really can’t get my life going until I solve this….”

Or any other similar versions of the above, what you are actually doing, without even being conscious you are doing it, is focusing on what you do NOT want. And as you are focusing on it, you are creating and attracting that very same thing.

I‘ve been there SO MANY times myself. Seeing WHAT IS, giving it meaning and keeping the same broken record.

Sometimes we hope that things will one day change. Sometimes we are without hope and believe that it’s all going to stay the same. All this hope, only to find ourselves arriving at a dead end again.

First, you really do not need to do it alone as there are many healers, coaches, or practitioners that can help. And I am here for you. I will be happy to support you in any way that I can. Keep reading as I’ll share with you something really exciting at the end of this article.

Hope Is Great! It’s Even Greater 
When You Add A Strategy.

sun in hand

So how would your thinking process prevail, if you focus on what you DO WANT?
Instead of:
“I wish this pain was gone” which is a great thought, but it still doesn’t take you very far does it, because you keep wishing the same wish day in and day out and nothing changes much. 
You want to ask yourself
“What do I want?” instead of “wishing that this pain would be gone,”
and then describe the answer.

Here are a simple, yet profoundly powerful way to do this:

Instead of (for example) back pains that you wish gone, first, get rid of the word “wish.” This puts your desire in a dreamy kind of mode, where it’s almost impossible to believe it will ever come true.

Wishing is a great start yet, unless you have Dorothy’s shoes and you live in the Land of Oz, it’ll take a little more than a wish.

Are You Creating A New Reality 
Or Just Wishing For One?

dorothy is red shoes

What do you actually want instead?

Do you want a flexible, strong, healthy back where you have freedom to move. to stretch, and transition easily from sitting to standing?

I bet (in this back pain example) that you do.

Wouldn’t it be great that every time, when the pain shows up and you go through the “I don’t want this pain,” (in whatever version you experience it) that you are able to immediately switch to what you DO want?

You can think it in your mind, say it out load, or write it down. You can even record your voice repeatedly and each time when the pain consumes you, play that recording to remind yourself that you are clear and focused on what you want. Even if it’s not present in your reality, YET!! You are creating a new reality.

Look, your pain is here to show you something. And until you get what it came here to show you, until you learn the lesson that it is holding for you, then it will continue showing up in one form or another.

My loving suggestion for you is to not let the snow ball grow. Learn how to listen to your body and take action so you can heal yourself because you really can.

A few months ago, a sweet and beautiful lady requested my help. She had been suffering from migraines for 15 years. She has tried many modalities and remedies to get rid of the migraines. Nothing worked. In fact, most of the people who seek my help have already tried so many paths and are disappointed each time. There are a couple of reasons why they have not received any results which I’ll get into in another article, but with this lady it was very simple.

We did a foot analysis and after about 10 minutes it became clear that the reasons her migraines are showing up, was to protect her because she is having hard time saying “no” to people, jobs, and opportunities which came her way.

So instead of listening to her body or her energy level, she just packs and packs her schedule with engagements. She puts herself last while she travels, runs from one place to another, and helps her friends when they need her.

Is it really a surprise why from five to seven days, once a month, she needs to turn off the phone, the computer, close the blinds, shut down everything, crawl under a blanket, and wait until the migraine storm goes away?

The migraines are here to SAVE HER. If she didn’t have that week, it would really be a disaster for her.

So we come back full circle. We are creatures of habit; we do what we do because we don’t know HOW to break the pattern. So when you clarify and focus on what you want, you’ll start noticing the haze fading, and solutions showing up and you feeling better.

If you have not yet joined me on my 21-Day From Pain To Freedom Facebook Challenge, I highly encourage you to join me and my wonderful community. It is totally free and I guide you with videos and step-by-step solutions on how to move away from pain. Remember that you don’t need to do it all by yourself when there is so much support that I can give you.


I’ve tried many times to do things by myself. It was a long and tiring journey with plenty of ups and down, so come along, make it easier for yourself, and take advantage of these 21 wonderful days, especially if you are in pain.

And if you just can't wait and are eager and want to take action immediately towards better health and well-being, and you are ready to clear the blocks that may be standing in your way to feel better today, click here, watch the short video and follow the steps so we can get together on the phone for just a “getting to know each other” conversation to see if I can be of help. 

To access all 16 parts of this series click here, this link will take you to the blog-article “16 Ways To Move Away From Pain And Into Freedom”. Towards the end of the article you’ll find the 16 ways. Each week, another article will be available, and you’ll be able to access each article from there.

Please feel free to leave your comments and what did you like about this post.
Meanwhile, many blessings and much love to you and may you experience freedom, health, prosperity, happiness and love, every day you are living on this earth.


Sigal Zoldan 
Founder of Infinite Realities International- Holistic Healing
Clinical Hypnotherapist, Master Results Coach
 & Forensic Healer

Sigal incorporating these modalities in her practice: Foot & Handwriting Analysis, The Grinberg Method, Past Life Regression, Reiki, NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programing) Neurological Repatterning, Clinical Hypnotherapy, Forensic Healing and more. To learn more about Sigal and her work visit www.sigalzoldan.com

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