As I explored more profound and life changing tools and modalities to awaken myself to my divine gifts, I have learned and continually notice that although there may be a “Boss” up there or somewhere, we have plenty of room for creation.
There is a great saying in Hebrew that translates this way:
Everything Is Known And
The Permission Is Granted.
What it means is that there is a bigger plan, yet WE HAVE an impact on this plan. Our decisions and choices of who we are and what we do CAN and WILL affect this plan. So we have permission to lead, to pursue, to take action, or to make a difference.
Are you familiar with this joke?
One day a flood came to this little town somewhere in the middle of planet earth. People climbed up their roofs with the hope to be saved. One man was sitting on the roof praying to God to be saved. Then a boat approached the top of the roof as the flood was so high and the two men in the boat reached out to the man on the roof trying to reach out to him. The man was deeply engaged in his prayer to God and dismissed them, “go away.”
Then a helicopter flew by and a rope was thrown from the sky to save the man. The man continued his devoted prayer to God to be saved dismissing the hovering helicopter.
The man died and as he came in front of God in heaven, he confronted him with disappointment and said, “God, I believed in you, I prayed to you, I was devoted to you, but you didn’t come…”
God answered, “But I did, I came through the two men in the boat and the guy in the helicopter and you sent them all away…”
God, higher power, source, whatever you name the unseen, if you even name it, works in mysteries way. And our job is to be a Sherlock and uncover the mystery to the best of our ability. Not necessarily the mystery of God, that’s a big one, but of the divinity that is within us.
So where do we start?
Let’s start from the end.
The end is what you want. You want to be happy, healthy, and enjoy financial freedom. Right? Let’s call it, “The Results”.
In order to achieve The Results, you want to look at what you currently are doing that brings you unwanted results. Let’s call it, “The Path.”
The Path is “made up of” a combination of different levels: Physical, Emotional, Mental, Energy, and Spirit. Let’s call those, “The Levels.” What do you do on each of these levels to support your goal? I know, it’s a lot to consider at once.
The levels have an infinite amount of pieces that are layered in a unique way for each individual. Let’s call it, “The Puzzle.” You don’t need to uncover ALL the pieces, only those that are relevant to what you wish to create and enjoy.
One of the pieces of The Puzzle is our Patterns. Patterns are the electromagnetic impulses that shoot out when a trigger is activated. We do not think of them as patterns because these patterns are hiding behind habits.
The Patterns Must Support Your Desired Results. When They Don’t, It Is Very Challenging And Sometimes Impossible To Achieve The Results.
I am not necessarily referring to habits like addictions, smoking, overeating, porn, drinking, or etc. although they are certainly habits. I’m talking about habits that we can live with and still be OK, like worry, lack of trust, power struggles, judging others, being judged, getting hurt, and others.
A couple of years ago, this beautiful young lady came to see me. The main thing she wanted to accomplish was to enjoy an intimate loving relationship.
Early on the pattern of sacrifice appeared and repeatedly showed up as we continued to work on fears and blocks. She was lending money to others and she did not receive it back. She was helping other people and putting herself last. She was not taking time to nourish herself and she often got burned out and frustrated from the same old same thing.
We worked to release this pattern. She became aware of it and started to make new choices. She felt better, less frustrated, and more hopeful. She started to see improvement. Then she met someone that she liked. As time passed by, she thought she got what she wanted and that she no longer needed to pay attention to how she was sabotaging herself with the pattern of sacrifice.
She devoted herself to this new and handsome guy even though she was very aware that she needed to set boundaries and state her needs.
This guy did not give her what she wanted, no commitment whatsoever. He relied on her financially, had her do his laundry, and was there for him whenever he wanted. She was frustrated again yet was not willing to change her habit. The desire to be with this guy was stronger than her desire to do what was good and right for her.
The pattern of sacrifice in her example was at play day in and day out. Until she was willing to be open and do what it took in order to free herself from this pattern, it would be inevitable that the results she was yearning for would not take place. And if and when they did, as long as this pattern “runs in her veins” they would most likely be temporary results.
There is good news and great news:
The pattern will always win. The pattern is the boss. Yet you have the permission and the ability to navigate yourself away from the pattern so it is not running your life.
Start by identifying what the pattern is that runs your life, then work to change it. With the thoughts you think, with the choices you make, and with the action you take.
I wish there was an easy way. There is a way, you just got to walk it consistently and enjoy reaping the fruits.
And always reach out so you can be supported along the process. Whether it is to me or someone you trust and appreciate.
Wishing you many blessings and much love and may you experience freedom, health, prosperity, happiness and love, every day you are living on this earth.