Just finished reading Tribes by Seth Godin. Wow, this book came right on time. It came right on time because even though I have the kind of business I am passionate about without noticing little by little I have been sucked in to being the marketer and sales person in my business and devoting about 80% of my time to doing things in my business that will most likely move it forward (or so I thought they would).
Recently something shifted. I noticed that I am not doing what I love as much as I’d like to and I decided to zoom out, to take some times where I am not even working and let some new answers to come up. I wanted to let go of those aspects and parts of myself and my business that did not serve me any longer and I am always amazed what happens when I do that. I work less, make more money, enjoy my days, relax, spend time with friends, cook, go to the spa, read, spend time in nature, meditate, visualize, watch movies and things just fall into place.
They fall into place because instead of being in a pushing, demanding, achieving mode I am in an allowing, opening, inviting mode, and that’s where things can happen much smoother. I tend to forget that. I tend to get into doing and doing and doing, and then after I’ve done so much and achieved so little I hit my forehead with my hand and say: “Oops, I did it again…” forgot myself in the doing mode afain. So when I remember, I pause, I take a breath, I zoom out and that’s when things really get going (for me).
Initially, when I decided to zoom out and figured how to get back to do 80% of what I love doing and 20% of what needs to be done as a part of it or even better, delegate it to someone else, I thought that I need to have a marketing plan, change the copy on my website, put some more systems in place and a couple of other things on those lines. But the more time I took to NOT KNOWING what I need to do, but allowing (here is that allowing again) the answers to pop on the surface, the better answers I got. Answers that were right on congruent with who I am, with my passion and desires. Not answers that just put a check mark on the item on my to do list. That’s not so much fun. This list is endlessly growing…
So when Tribes by Seth Godin showed up (thanks to Eiji Morishta who introduced me to the TSA family and Gavin Mountford who is one of the co-founders of TSA (Tribe Syndication Association) who mentioned the book) I allowed myself to saturate the information and instead of coming from a perspective of “marketing” my brain has shifted to think in terms of tribe and that is exciting on a few levels:
|1||Is that even though I want to make a difference and help lots of people to get unstuck from their own limitation, I now can more fully accept the fact that I can only help and support those that really wish to get unstuck and those that wish to do it with me.|
It doesn’t matter how much marketing I’ll try to “shove down people’s throat”. It will never work. Maybe they will buy my product or service but they won’t use it. And if they don’t use it no one really won. I am not after making a sale (which is nice but…that’s not the ultimate goal, it’s just a form of exchange) my desire is that people will take the knowledge they acquire and use it in such away that they can better their lives.
After reading Tribes the picture that was blurry for many years is starting to become clearer (there are still pieces that are flipping over but I am using my magic stick and they do flip). My focus is changing; I am already happier, already attracted new amazing motivated clients, met and connected with new people and found so much peace within myself and my work. It is so much fun, so exciting and totally not overwhelming. Maybe it’s due to breathing fully again, exercising, hiking, receiving body work, taking time off. Well actually it’s probably, not maybe.
Whether you’ll decide to pick up the book or not, that’s up to you. In fact it is all up to you. All I am wishing you is to allow the pieces of yourself to come together in such a way that a whole wonderful, healthy, happy, human being is carving him/herself on to the surface.
And if you are still wondering what does the title has to do with this post of mine, here it is:
I have no doubt that your plate is extremely full. That you are trying to figure out how to juggle everything so you can enjoy your life and have the freedom to do, be and have what you want.
I also know that you will most likely do everything you can to succeed in this mission but until you are not standing “naked” in front of your own truth, do you really think your message will market itself? Maybe, but that’s for sure will involve a tremendous amount of work. I’d go with peeling the layers, clear some time and devote it to YOU. And it’s never too early to do that.
"The secret to leadership is simple:
Do What You
Paint a Picture Of
People Will Follow"
So now all that is needed is for you (and me to) is to make it crystal clear to yourself and others what you (and me) believe in. I would love to hear your thoughts and use this post as a platform for brainstorming and clarifying – what do you believe in? So feel free to share your thoughts with. And remember that making a difference has to start with you first.
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I would love to read your comments, tell me how you liked this post, tell me what you are planning to do with this information, ask questions and come back to share what have opened up for you.
Meanwhile, many blessings and much love to you and may you experience freedom, health, prosperity, happiness and love, every day you are living on this earth.
Founder of Infinite Realities International- Holistic Healing
Clinical Hypnotherapist, Master Results Coach & Forensic Healer
Sigal incorporating these modalities in her practice: Foot & Handwriting Analysis, The Grinberg Method, Past Life Regression, Reiki, NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programing) Neurological Repatterning, Clinical Hypnotherapy, Forensic Healing and more. To learn more about Sigal and her work visit www.sigalzoldan.com
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